I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
E-mail: gibber@cableone.net
Gender: Male
Location: Minnesota
Age: 53
Member Since: May 14, 2008
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I'm starting to like this guy. I don't know him too well and hes not usually the type I'd go for but he is very nice and friendly. The thing is I cant really imagine him sexually. Like not at all. Does that mean I don't really like him? Do I maybe just like him as a friend? I think that the main reason I cant imagine him like that is because he seems really innocent and sweet. Somehow it seems wrong. And I want to talk to him more. I see him in class but we don't always talk. Anything would help. Thanks~ (link)
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Could it be that you are starting to realize that maybe sex should not be at the top of your list of importance when picking a boy friend. Nah, I'm sure that couldn't be it, but why don't you give it a try, you may actually learn something.
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thanks. well my friend was the one who told me that if you cant imagine that then it means you don't really like the person. but i kind of disagree with her. i think you are right, its just hard for me because i think that i have been emotionally scarred from having had hookups with guys that i didn't really know and it all went wrong. i honestly don't want any guy in my life unless its someone i will love as a friend first and then grow from that. but sometimes its hard for me to open myself up like that. i guess i really didn't care about my self respect before and thats why i let myself be drawn into situations that i didnt really want to be in. but thank you. i mean ive thought about life and these recurring theme in my own life a lot. but now i guess i have to actually do something about it =]
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