Hello everyone. My name here on advicenators is Solcito. It's a nickname my ex-girlfriend gave me that basically means little sun. That's the only personal information I really want to give out. In the short time that I have inhabited this planet I feel that I have experienced enough to make good judgment in most situations. I've fallen in love, had my heart broken, been mugged, made and lost a ton of friends, lived in three continents and become fluent in two different languages. I just feel that it's important to let you know why I think I'm certified to answer your questions. I'm also a guy, so I know how men think. I'm not saying that there aren't a fair share of guys who have questions about girls. I just generally see more females asking about their love lives here than guys. Hope you like my advice, and good luck to everyone with their personal issues.
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sooo how do i get over my ex that i love and went out for 2 years but she stopped loving me and she wants to be friends but i can't do it idk ii am going crazy i miss her all the time and can't stop thinkinh about her idk i am going to flip- out and everyone wants her too (link)
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I just got out of a one-year relationship, so I know where you're coming from. First off, let me tell you I know it sucks. You get that feeling in your chest and you want to get rid of it. I'm sure you want to be able to focus on other things in your life, but your thoughts dwell on her. I completely understand that.
People are going to tell you to go out with your friends. They will tell you to talk to new girls. They'll tell you to stay busy. That really won't work. Time is the only think that will make it better. Hanging out with your friends might make you feel a little better for a couple hours, but they'll have to leave eventually, and you'll be alone again. Talking to other girls might help you realize she isn't the only girl in the universe, but is it fair to the girls that you are talking to them while you still have feelings for another girls? Staying busy does help a little. It doesn't make you feel any better, but it helps the time pass faster.
My advice to you is this: Take a break from dating. Often the worst part of getting out of a relationship is that you don't know how to function alone after so much time with a girlfriend. If you take a break from girls for a while, not only are you not worrying about being alone, you are actively trying to stay alone. Look at yourself. What do you like/dislike? After every breakup I try to reevaluate my lifestyle and improve in any way I can (I lost 12 pounds and got my GPA up after this one). The last thing you can do is be confident that it will get better. Twice in my life I have thought that the pain was so strong and constant that it would never cease. I was wrong. Think about it, how many old men do you see that are still upset over their high school or college romance? It doesn't happen. I'm not sure how old you are, but I doubt you're out of high school yet. You have a lot of life left to live, and there is plenty of time for you to find a good girl.
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ya the pain in your chest does suck and when u see him or her your heart races it really sucks but thanks
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