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I'm Mary. I'm a sophomore in college and I love helping people. If you ever need advice or someone to talk to I'm here for you! Never hesitate to ask or message me. Hope I can help!
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I started dating a guy and I really really liked him. He was the first guy I had ever hooked up with without being in a relationship.
The only thing was-- he was on a break with his girlfriend of four years. The reason for their break was he wasn't ready to be married, and she was.
I had never felt so close to a person before, and we knew that we were falling in love, but that it was a really difficult situation because he had this good girl who did nothing wrong but want to be with him.. and a new girl who he was starting to fall for.
Well, I lost in the end. And not only did I lose a guy that I loved, I also lost a friend. It's been months, and God knows I've tried. But I miss him so much.
I don't want to contact him, because I care about him enough not to ruin what he has. In the same matter, I never got the closure I thought I deserved. But how do I get passed this? How can I move on? I need help because this all ended in December and I still think about him everyday.
Please help.
Heyy. I completely understand what you're going through. It is so tough to get over someone that you loved. I understand you not wanting to ruin what he has with his girlfriend and that is so nice of you. But i was wondering why you had to loose him completely, like why you two could just be friends?
Maybe you left something out or his girlfriend doesn't approve . . . anyway. If you can't see him anymore it will be tough to get over him. All you can really do is just try to move on. Maybe try and find someone new. It is always good to get back out there, even if your heart isn't in it. Even going on a few dates with someone may help you move past this other guy.
I'm sorry you miss him so much. I really hope you get passed this and that i helped even a little. Good luck =)
(Rating: 5) Thank you for such a sweet and genuine response. You're right, I forgot to mention that he isn't "allowed" to be my friend since he's back with that girl and she's well aware of how close him and I got. I don't blame her.. but I'll always wonder what could have been had it not been for her. I'll try my best to move on. Thank you!