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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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Okay, so a few months ago one of my friends (A) decided that she didn't like me anymore. So, she kinda just kicked me to the curb and started ignoring me, telling other people to ignore me and stuff. So, I was left with only two friends. One of them has stuck by me through thick and thin and then the other one (B) I'm kinda mad at now.
A few weeks after my incident, friend B was hanging out with me more than A. I guess she felt that I needed a shoulder to cry on and all that junk, which I did. Well, because B was supporting me, A and these 3 other girls who also used to be my friends started ignoring B also. Then B was all like "I can't believe they would do this to me!" and stuff like that. And I was completely there for her because I knew EXACTLY how it felt considering these same girls had just done this to me. So B and I grew closer.
Then all of a sudden, B decided to bring up the fact that she felt ignored to A...and A was EXTREMELY APOLOGETIC and said things like "Oh I'm so sorry! I had no idea we were!" and then she invited B back into their little group and everything is nice and happy and wonderful for her. And B tries to talk to me and stuff, but I can tell she'd rather hang out with them instead of me, just like everyone else.
The thing that bugs me the most is that when I brought up how I was feeling to A, she yelled at me and said she was doing nothing of the sort and then we weren't friends anymore.
So basically, now that B is back in the group, she doesn't really talk to me as much anymore and she'd much rather be friends with them than with me. And it also really really bothers me that now she's close to this other girl who at the beginning of the year both B and A hated and now they both prefer hanging out with her than with me. This other girl is actually pretty much the reason why I have no friends now because she started everything between me and A. It's so stupid and I hate this so much. I'm so frustrated with B that she would be so hypocritical.
Any advice whatsoever on like I dunno, how to feel better about this I guess? Or should I talk to B and tell her how I feel? Though I don't know if I should do that because I don't need another life-changing fight on my hands...
I just don't know what to do :(
(By the way I'm really sorry this is so long)
First of all, don't apologize for having a long question. If you didn't describe everything the way you did, it would be hard for the reader to give you the kind of answer you need to get through this.
I know that you're hesitant to confront B, because of what you already experienced with A. But, I also think that B may understand you more than A will, because she's felt it before, and she saw what you went through already.
If you want to avoid a bad fight with her, then be kind about your approach. Be careful as to not make her feel like a bad person-- because she's probably just confused and doesn't know how to act around you since all of her friends are being kind of childish.
It's obvious to me that B goes the way the wind blows instead of comforting a good friend-- that you've described in here that you've been.
The best thing to do right now is talk to B-- tell her how you feel nicely, and get some answers as to why she's ignoring you and making you feel so bad in the same way A was.
It's not far to you, and good friends don't do things like this. If your conversation with B gets you nowhere, it's time to keep your head up and look for good friends who won't do things like this to you.
Please keep me updated, because I'd really like to help in any way possible.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! This made me feel better and it was just really good advice. I think I will talk to her about it and this reassured me so much! I'll definitely keep you updated. :)