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Q: I am dealing with a huge weigh on my shoulders. Last year I went through the hardest time of my life. I had been with my ex-boyfriend on and off for almost a year and a half. He moved away for school but we hook up when he would come home. I ended up pregnant and he made me feel like there was no way to keep the baby. I was in a horrible state with my hormones running wild and all the added stress of school. I was 2 months away from receiving degree. But I knew it was going against everything I believe in.
I feel totally depressed. Its been a year and I still have the pregnancy weight, I feel totally guilty for what I did. It kills me inside to think about what I did. I have no one to talk to because its such a sensitive issue. My friends haven't been through this and I dont want to dwell my issues on them. I lost all my confidence i feel fat and ugly because of what I did. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel totally alone :*(
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Your grief is normal for women who have gone through what you have. It sounds like you deeply regret your decision and you are beating your self up. I would advise that you seek counseling, because you need to forgive yourself. This incident while it is one you regret, is a symbolic one, because it represents a lot of life lessons for you to learn which will help you prosper in the future. However if you continue to wallow in depression, you will not be in a healthy state of mind to adequately process the experience. Your experience did not occur in vain; forgive yourself, you are worthwhile and you deserve to be forgiven.
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Ugo is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona. He holds a Bachelors in Psychology and a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology. He is also the host of Road 2 Resolutions, a web site dedicated to addressing questions on mental health issues and conflict resolution issues.
Please visit Road2Resolutions.com for more questions and monthly newsletters.
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Male Location: (Originally) Nigeria (Currently) Arizona Occupation: Psychotherapist Member Since: January 28, 2008 Answers: 73 Last Update: May 25, 2012 Visitors: 7342
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