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Sometimes my parents are telling me that I'm really really fat. It hurts my feelings, even though they say it in a joky way (but I know they mean it)
So I'm about 160cm..give or take.
And I weight 60kg...
And I'm 15.
So am I really that fat?? (link)
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I have a daughter who through her younger years was over weight and we could not get a doctor who would tell her this, they just kept saying that she would slim out when she got older. As parents we tried to nicely get her to keep her weight in line as she ate portions twice what she should and hid food in her room. Now, at 25 she is obese to the point of the inability to even walk enough to lose weight, (her knees and ankles can not handle the weight.
We tried for years to help her when she was your age and older, but she saw this as abusing her, because it hurt her feeling. Don't get me wrong, I do not think that you should be so skinny that your ribs show, but you should be at where you feel healthiest. As a father, I have to face the fact that I will probably live to see my daughter die of a weight related cause and you can't imagine the tear in my heart to know this causes me. Your parents concern maybe a bit premature, but their concern is real and knowing they hurt you when they say it, they make it to be a joke. You can not know how we feel to watch our children do things that are destructive to themselves, but you should know we try to stop the destructiveness only because the thought of losing you is so over powering that they sit with tears in their eyes as it haunts them night and day. Please be aware of your weight, eat normal proportions and exercise even though you don't want to. Get yourself to were you feel good and can enjoy something as simple as taking a long walk with the one you love. And tell your parents that you love them for reminding you to stay healthy.
I can not answer to weather you are over weight at 132 lbs, you are the only one that can be the judge of that. Just ask yourself, how do I really feel, (physically).
Be well
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Thank you so much. I'd never considered their point of view.
It just bothers me that I've been eating healthily for the past year (not snacking when I'm hungry) but I just can't get rid of the weight I gained from a couple of years ago from constantly pigging out.
But still, thank you so much, I never actually knew that things like this would happen. I honestly hope that your daughter will be ok.
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