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Q: i've been dating my boyfriend for six months.
but three months before that his girlfriend that was his girlfriend on and off for three years broke up with him.
i really don't know why he stayed with her in the first place, she cheated on him all the time. and the guy she dumped him for, and is now dating, is the ONE of the guys she cheated on him with.
and inbetween their breakups she'd always have a different boyfriend, but he never had another girlfriend.
hes messed around with other girls, but i'm only his second girlfriend.
well anyways, i love him. i honestly do. and i know he cares about me, but sometimes it just pisses me off that their past is like that.
and i like her, shes fun. but he doesnt like her anymore, he can't stand her. but lately shes just been getting on my nerves.
today a girl asked me about his mom [she died of cancer three years ago] and his ex just jumped in, because she was sitting on the otherside and just started saying all this stuff about what type of cancer, and how he reacted and all this stuff.
i get they have a past, and i know i do too.. but it just makes me so mad that it gets brought up.
and i still think she cares about him because everytime i even say his name she looks at me like shes gonna cry.
i just don't know what to do about it because it honestly gets on my nerves that she acts like she knows everything about him. what can i do to get over these feelings and just concentrate on our relationship that we have now?
Well one thing you are gonna learn is ex-girlfriends will do anything and everything to try and piss you off and hurt your feelings. They look for the reactions you give whenever they do things, the best thing to do is not to react, but I know that is the hardest thing to do. Dealing with the past relationships are very very difficult and if you aren't careful your anger about it may ruin your relationship.

Things to do when you start thinking about it, remember that she is his 'EX'-girlfriend for a reason and he wants to be with you otherwise he wouldn't be with you. Focus on the future and how much you care about him. She is just jealous and wants to make you misrable, ignore it and kill her with kindness.

Hope I Helped.

thank you (:

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I am a 19 year old female. I am the least judgmental person you will ever meet. I am funny. I am free-willed. I am a lover. I am a friend. I have been through alot & many people call me their guru. & I will try to give you the healthiest advice possible. I may be young but I have a lot of life experiences in many areas, and since my career will be giving advice I figured I'd give a head start. I can be blunt and will give you my honest opinion, although I will do it in a nice way.
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