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hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??
i think the longer you do this, the guilt will just pile on even more and add more stress to the relationship. it doesnt take much to break trust, but it takes a lottt to gain it. i would come clean to him, assure him it was only through phone, no physical contact. understand that he will be angry/hurt.
it will take time, but hopefully trust can be regained. the worst is if he wants revenge or thinks he can do something and use it as an excuse because of this situation.
so, my solution forr your trouble paying the bills is this..are you old enough to get a part time job?
if not maybe just babysitting,house cleaning,etc.
dont continue sending these pictures, its not worth ruining your relationship over.
(Rating: 5) o yea, im old enough to get a job :) im 16. but as it happens, i was just hired yesterday as a waitress at a restruant where the pay is amazing. so its not like i was too lazy to get a job - i applied everywhere in town. thanks so much for your help!!