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Q: hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??
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I think you are placing your self in a fragile and dangerous position sending a complete stranger photos of your self. From my perspective, your boyfriend is not the issue here, it is your safety. Please don't sell yourself short over a cell phone. If it is that much of a necessity for you to have a cell phone, I would suggest that you get a part time job. This human being who pays for your cell phone bill, regardless of where he might live, probably has access to your personal information and the ability to travel to your neck of the woods. I get the feeling that your secret with this stranger is isolating you from your loved ones, which can make it easier for this individual to make physical contact with you, possible hurt you and get away with it. Get rid of the phone, tell your parents what has been going on, (for your protection), get a part job and save towards a new phone.
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i cant get rid of this phone, my life is on it. besides, i have to help pay bills, a new phone is not high on my list of priorities, especially when this one is basically new. and ive been looking for a job everywhere, and finnallyy freakin found one - thank god. and no, he doesnt have access to my personal info, bc i have virgin mobile, so all he does is text me a code. thanks for caring, though. i appriciate it :) thanks!
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Ugo is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona. He holds a Bachelors in Psychology and a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology. He is also the host of Road 2 Resolutions, a web site dedicated to addressing questions on mental health issues and conflict resolution issues.
Please visit Road2Resolutions.com for more questions and monthly newsletters.
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Male Location: (Originally) Nigeria (Currently) Arizona Occupation: Psychotherapist Member Since: January 28, 2008 Answers: 73 Last Update: May 25, 2012 Visitors: 7340
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