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Q: so i have this friend..lets call him A. A and I are really good friends. in fact i would call him one of my best friends. i know him really well. hes a guy and im a girl. like 2 weeks ago he told me he liked me, and before he told me i thought kinda liked him too. he said he didnt want to date though because we were such good friends and if we were to break up then it might ruin our friendship. but i kinda want to date him and i dont think it would ruin our friendship at all. i have been talking to him on the phone everynight for the past 3 weeks. (btw he knows i like him too) then last night we were on the phone and he said he was texting the girl he kinda likes. i asked him who and he said he cant tell me because he knows i dont like her. so honestly i didnt want to know. i knew if i knew it would break my heart. i asked him how many girls he liked and he said 2. i asked who they were. he said it was the one he was texting and the other one i already knew. so of course that one is me. then he said that he doesnt realy like the one hes texting a lot. which gets me confused because he plays with my heart and i dont think he knows it. hes such a good guy though. when we got off the phone i texted him to see if he still liked me and he said idk. and i asked him what that means and hes like yeah idk ever since i liked a girl who ripped the insides out of me i really dont know. (that girl is his ex from last year but he doesnt like her at all anymore) but i really like him alot. ive gotton to like him over the past few weeks more and more. and now for some reason i get really jealous whenever he talks about people asking him out or things like that because a ton of girls ask him out because of the way he looks. i like him for his personality. i dont even know what im asking. like what should i do? i have never liked a boy like this. im not kidding. (ive never had a boyfriend either) i really want to MAYBE date A. i like him so much. =\ hheeeellllllllp!!! thanks in advance and sorry it was long.

I am sorry this is happening to you, but it is a very commong situation. As a matter of fact this same thing happened to me in 8th grade. I am now in 11th grade and that guy is still not as close to me as he used to be. All you can really do is talk to him and let him know that you can accept the fact that he has a girlfriend, but that you would still like to be friends. You shouldn't let the fact that either of you have other people in your lives break up your friendship, especially since it sounded like such a great one.

I suggest txting him or talking to him in person and letting him know all of your feelings. Tell him that you miss your friendship, that you would rather have him as a friend rather than not at all. Tell him everything, he will most likely respond to that. If not be understanding, his life is changing, he has a girlfriend and is trying to figure out who he is. It will happen to you later and you will grow apart from friends, so your best bet is to tell him then be understanding.

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