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Q: Okay so this may be kind of long. So ill just start I was dating a guy we'll call him "T" So We dated around 8 months almost 9 months and it just recently end well actually i broke up with him the week before valentines day. (We broke up one other time before that to where he came back to me) This time It turned out that he had cheated on me wayy at the beginning of our relationship. When i found out and askd him he got defensive and i loked 'into' it and he had lied so i broke up with him. It wasnt like we had a great relationship either we always argued n he was insecure and accused me of cheating because i guess its what he did. He didnt always treat me good and i know i deserve better. but that has made me super insecure no matter wat i tell myself. So we've been broken up for two months but i cant to seem to get over it, I miss him and think about him alot. i Cant seem to get him out of my mind. I wasnt in love with him but its like i want him to want me again or be with me like the first time we broke up. im just confused and want some advice on what i should do.

That often happens with young love, no matter if they were horrible to you or not. In relationships when one of the partners is abusive to the other, especially when it is the girl, they often get really really caught up and hooked. And wanting someone to want you is common.

I think that you should try your best to get over him, it isn't healthy for you to be in a relationship like that. Though it is really hard to get over relationships, try your best. Keep yourself busy, get hobbies, and spend alot of time with your friends. Talking to people can also be a big help, keeping your feelings in will only make matters worse. I really hope that you can get over him and find someone that deserves you.

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