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Q: my boyfriend & i have been together now for about 5 months.
i am his first serious relationship since his last ex. & they dated for 20 months. they lost their virginities to eachother & everything.
just here recently, has made a year since they broke up. & she was the one who broke up with him, because he cheated on her.

my boyfriend & i made plans to go to a club one night & she was there. she kept giving me awful looks & staring at us. i've seen her before & she's never really acted that way to me.
then one day she sends me a message on myspace trying to say that i was talking bad about her to her friends & telling them that they couldn't be around her.
she & i get in a big argument & my boyfriend basically tells me to leave her alone.
my boyfriend & i go to different schools, but his ex & him go to the same school. & he told me that she came up & was talking to him really bad about me & that she apologized to him & everything. & he accepted her apology.

i'm not sure what i'm asking but i need your opinions on this situation. i've never started anything with this girl & i blocked her from my myspace & everything & i don't understand why she is always trying to talk to my boyfriend.
i mean, is she jealous? because she has a blog on her myspace that is specifically aimed at how bad she hates my boyfriend because he cheated on her, but i just don't understand.

For one she is a girl and two she probably really cared about him and she probably doesn't like the fact that he is starting to get over her. She is trying to get in between you guys over this and force you against one another.
I can understand completely why you would be mad about this I mean, he tried to say you you started it, then accepted her apology when she was talking bad about you, this probably makes you feel like he still cares for her.
There will always be drama between exgirlfriends and currents thats just a give, but I guess the key is to just try and let it slide off, but that in its self can be very difficult. Talking to your boyfriend could be helpful, but he may not understand why you feel threanted, boys often don't.
Do what you are doing, ignore her, don't let her know that it bothers you. Maybe if you do that things will stop. Most girls do it to get a rise out of you, then once you stop letting it bother you then they stop. Don't let this pull you and your boyfriend apart. Good Luck =]]

Hope I Helped.
[haha totally my bad this is just like me best friends situation sorry]

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im not sure if i know who you are, but thanks so much for the advice

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