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Hey, don't worry about it being long..I'm most always long winded. I'm sorry to hear that your parents fight so much!
AND, I'm sorry, I wish I had a wonderful cure for your situation, but, fact is, I don't. I can only give you advice on how to deal with it *frown* and try my best.
The one thing that you can really do to make a difference, because, as you said, talking to your parents isn't working..SO, maybe it's best to be there for your little sisters. Maybe you can distract them by playing with them while your parents fight? I KNOW this isn't the answer you needed, but along with what's following this- it's about all I got.
And unfortunately, you can't "fix" it. Your parents have obviously gotten used to this immature behavior and maybe they even use it like a drug = they may even fight to release natural endorphins.
I have a couple of ideas, but I cannot guarantee that they will work- or that it's in your best interest to use them. You know your family better than I do, and will know if it will work or not.
One thing you could do is break out the video camera..and tape them while they are unaware. And ONLY, and I do mean ONLY after they have made up and calmed down: show them what they say and do to each other and how it is affecting your sisters (videotape your sisters too). Hopefully, they will be shocked at their own behavior (most people do not realize what they do in the heat of an argument). If it works, maybe next time they will feel some guilt or other emotion that will trigger them NOT to fight, or at least, not to fight in you and your siblings presence!
Since, I don't know how strict (or emotionally abusive) your parents are, or your age...I don't know if this will work, but maybe when they fight you could just barge in, and I mean barge in on them, with your siblings in tow and chide them as if your the adult. Don't yell, but be sure to use emphasis on the capital words, use a pleading voice:
Say something like,.... "LOOK! Please LOOK what your doing to us! Don't you realize how this affects us? Don't you realize when you fight like this, that it makes me and my sisters cry and it upsets us to the point that it hurts us too, probably more than it hurts you?! Don't you want us to grow up and be successful and happy? How can we do that with all this emotional turmoil ruling our lives? How can my sisters learn anything different than how to argue?!
We love you!, please show us that YOU love us as much. PLEASE, PLEASE don't fight"
And in your most "adult voice". Maybe you could suggest this.."I understand that you are going through tough times. Maybe we could go live with relative "so and so" until you two can work this out.
I do hope I've helped at least a little. I took my best shot!
Blessings!
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