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In short, I am unsure how to get over myself and put my son first.
In order to get over an ex of one year i started smoking MJ and sleeping with a former high school mate. The condom broke after the second or third time and i ended up pregnant. The major problem is I still love my ex and i am having difficulty with the question, "why God? why not my ex whom i loved and wanted to have a child with some day? why this person whom i dont deeply care for, who should have just been a blip in my life but now is much more?" i've been diagnosed with quite a bit but major depression is the main thing (to keep it short). i cry almost every day. i dont want to be a mom...im too crazy and impatient and angry. i hate myself for doing this to an innocent person.it makes me almost suicidal...but my beliefs wont allow me to hurt myself anymore or my child. (link)
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This is a truly tough situation and you will have to make some tough decisions...you either have to learn to adapt to the incoming environment or accept that you cannot care for the child. If you are fully unable to care for a child at the time then you should give him or her up for adoption. You can choose the parents...you can even do an open adoption or hold interviews. By giving your child to another family he or she will have the loving care and environment they need to do well. I know it's a tough decision to make...but if you are unable to care for this child then it is the best option. You wont be hurting your child...you'll be helping him or her. The child will have a better life in the long run and you will have time to focus on caring for yourself and your personal problems.
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Rating: 4
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just want to thank you. you're right i have to consider that as an option if it turns out that i am not emotionally and mentally able to care for him
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