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Ok so I am planning on having sex with my friend and I'm a virgin. I am not on birth control (and there is no way I can get it so don't tell me I should). I need some good tips on how to not get pregnant. We will be using a condom of course but is that enough? Should he where 2 in case one pops? Anthing is good. I can't wind up pregnant or my parents will kill me (don't tell me not to do it either because I already made up my mind). Also, if you still haven't figured it out yet, I am a complete virgin. He isn't and I want this to be great for him (don't tell me to get ourselves checked either). How do I make it last and feel good (and by that I mean both of us having an orgasm) because I have heard that the first time usually hurts.
THANKS SO MUCH TO EVERYONE THAT CAN HELP. AND PLEASE HURRY BECAUSE THIS COULD HAPPEN AT ANY TIME. (link)
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Wearing one condom is much safer than wearing two - two condoms rub against each other, and the friction can cause them to pop or tear. Make sure that you have a clear understanding of how condoms work. You can buy these over the counter and practice at home.
The tip needs to be squeezed before and during the condom is rolled onto the penis - if air is left in this, the condom can pop from the force of the boy's ejaculation.
There is also only one correct way to roll the condom down. If you or your friend make a mistake and put it on backwards, you will need to throw that condom away and start again with a fresh one. This is because the boy's precum would have touched the condom, and when you flipped it around you would be putting that into you.
Also make sure your fingernails (or his) are short without rough edges, to avoid tearing the condom.
Your first time is likely to hurt. To reduce the pain, use lubricated condoms. You may also consider a water-based lubricant. Make sure you are relaxed and turned on, otherwise things could be more uncomfrtable than they need to be. Worrying about pregnancy can make you not feel excited, and your body may react by clamping shut.
Have you considered all your options for getting birth control? There are loads of different kinds, and depending on where you live you may be able to access services free and confidentially. A condom is fab as it can help reduce the chances of pregnancy AND the transmission of an infection, but backing it up with another form is always good too.
As far as not wanting to get checked, if you have never been sexually active (which includes oral sex), you should be fine. If your friend has had sex, you may want to consider him getting checked out. Various infections can make you infertile, be painful, cause death, or have different consequences on your body. This is your health and future, so keep yourself as safe as possible.
After sex, if you want to have another go, use another condom! It's best if the boy pulls out just after ejaculating, and he will need to hold the condom at the base of his penis to make sure it doesn't slip out. If this sounds complex, get a pack of condoms and a carrot or cucumber and try it out beforehand.
I wish you the best.
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Thanks so much. I didn't even know about pinching the tip!
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