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Q: my bf and i love each other but we are having a lot of problems because i feel like im not a priority because he never has time to talk to me. well right now his phone is broken too but he doesnt email and occasionally IMs. its just we used to talk so much and now we dont. we is super busy with school because its getting really tough and i know he wants to talk but he just doesnt have time!! what should we do because i keep getting hurt when he says he will call me and then doesnt. dont say understand him because this is serious. i am getting so upset and feel like their should be a way he can make time for me. and he cant do anything on fridays and a lot of times i cant on sat. or sun. and we cant on school nights. we go to different schools and im moving in 2 months so i want to spend every second possible with him. he does too and i know he wants to but he just cant seem to make time. i want to come up with a solution and stuff and i just want him to make me feel like he truly does love me and cares about me. if we cant solve this in a week (he asked me to give him a week to prove himself) then we are going to take a break(or breakup depending). he didnt want to call me today (like he promised!! he promised he was going to fix everything and make it all right and that it would OK and that he would call) but he didnt because he said it feels like i am upset with him (i AM...but i still love him) and he doesnt like going and talking to me when i am upset with him and unhappy with our relationship (he said). PLEEEASE what should i do? i dont even have a way of contacting him on a phone because his cell isnt working and hes getting a new one soon but idk when and he doesnt have a home phone. i have his dads # cause he has been calling on his dads cell when he had time to talk so should i call his dads phone?? thank you SO much...you dont know what this means.

i am so upset and sad and scared because i love him but i cant keep getting hurt. please help and i will rate thank you!!

Things always get more difficult as relationships proceed and as you get older. When you love someone you have to put up with alot of things and things really aren't going to get easier. You will both just have to try and make it easier on you. Let him know that you are upset about it, tell him that you don't feel like a priority. You are going to have to come up with a solution that works out for the both of you, i know its difficult I am going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I are both very very busy, I play sports and am in school, he works and is in school. We both have to put a lot of extra effort into our relationship to make it work, but it is and we are both happy with one another.

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