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my bf and i are best friends and i love him but we keep having problems. first things have been a little rocky because im moving faaar away in June. like a 2 day drive away. the problem now tho is that i went to where im gonna live soon to look at houses and schools and stuff with my parents for a week and his phone is broken (just broke last week a couple days before i left state) he called me on his friend's phone on friday and tried to get in touch through IM but i didnt have a computer. and he emailed Sunday but never replied to my email (i borrowed my friends computer) the last couple days i have tried really hard to get in touch and now it seems he doesnt care. he didnt email me or call on his brother's phone or his mom's or dad's. he had options and he didnt do anything. he is in school so during the day he couldnt do anything but w/e. idk why but he and i keep having problems! he keeps doing things like this that make it seem like he doesnt care. every other week i am upset because he acts like he doesnt care!!
i know i might seem a little extreme but we are in a serious relationship and the last time i talked to him for real was last Tuesday! he called on Friday but we only talked for like 5-10 minutes. we didnt even really talk either. he had opportunities and i tried very hard to get in touch. and Monday was our 3 month anniversary and he forgot. it just seems like i put out more effort than he does.
i have high expectations and im willing to wait for a guy who can reach those and i always thought he could but now idk.
i called him on his brothers phone finally today and he has a really hard test that he knows nothing about and he did reeeally bad on his last test in that class and he didnt study at all before tonight apprently so he was like i cant talk i will call you some time tomorrow. and im on break and we were supposed to hang out and i cant go see him if he doesnt call me until tomorrow because then its too late my mom needs more notice than that. and i am going through a REALLY hard time moving and everything and i need him to be here for me. im stressed out! i cant keep having these problems but i love him!
please help me! i dont know what to do. today when he was like i'll call you tom i was like fine and he said bye and then i hung up. then i cried. it hurts me when he acts like he doesnt care and i understand that he had a test but he couldnt even email me and we havent talked in forever and i always make time for him. he always says he cares but idc what he says i care about what he does. and right now he isnt showing it at all. he says he doesnt want a break and all this will make us stronger but its not normal for us to always have problems. we used to never have problems. i know hes a great guy and i really do love him but hes not giving me what i want and what i give him. please give me some advice and i need as much as i can get!
im sorry this is so long but im really upset and torn. thank you SO much! i will rate for all your help :) (link)
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sure, you may love him, but you could love anybody (not trying to be mean)
there are some people that just aren't meant for you, and i think he might be one of them.
and considering you're only on 3 months and that he couldn't even remember, i'd say you should take a break. i'm not saying permanently break up unless that works better for you.
just take time for yourself. you can't give him your all and get nothing in return, because from experience, it's not worth it.
you'll move on. you'll find someone better. you said yourself, you're willing to wait!
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thanks-thats really great advice :)
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