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I go to an alternative school, and we have very small classes of 5-10 people. There's a certain boy in my class who I really do like him a lot. He's nice, and he's showed and expressed interest in me -- but the problem is he can only seem to say it when he's high. He'll flirt with me in class, and call me later in the night and I can tell that he's completely gone, and he says things he usually wouldn't. He seems to want to get high at every turn. I've never done drugs or had any interest in them, so I have no idea where he's coming from.

I'm put off by the fact that he's a pot head, but at the same time I can't just stop liking him all together. He asks me to come hang out with him all the time, but I don't want to be around him when he's like that, so I always say no.

What possibly annoys me the most is that I know he has interest in another girl beside me. I know that he says pretty much the same things to her that he does to me, and I don't really understand it. I don't really understand him. I really don't know what to do about him.

Should I forget about him?
Am I right to be bothered by the fact that he's a pot head?
And why does he only really tell me he likes me when he's high?

Thanks so much.
The boy I am currently dating used to be a pot head and I wasn't into that so I totally understand where you are coming from. I really liked him alot but I didn't want to be around that kind of stuff. He and I were also good friends so I told him that I couldn't be around it. A few years later he ended up stopping and we are now dating and very happy.
It is very difficult to date someone when they are interested in drugs and you want no part in it. I think that most of the time it's easier for people to tell their feelings when they are high because they are braver most of the time. As for what you should do in the situation if he flirts with other girls the same way he does you and tells them the same things then maybe he is just a flirt. But if you believe that he really likes you and you really like him then maybe you should give it a try. Maybe even try and get him to stop smoking. It is going to be very difficult for you two too work out though if he doesn't stop and you don't being. [[and please don't.]] Drugs aren't the answer to any problem. Let me know how it goes.

Hope I Helped.

Thanks and I will. (:

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