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Me and my boyfriend just broke up. We broke up on good terms and we both still love each other but he felt like he needed to grow up some more before we can be together and be happy. I know that he is the one and I know that he loves me and wants to be with me and he thinks we will be able to get back together in a month or two and be perfectly happy, but I am having problems.
Like I said, I know he loves me but I keep having these thoughts that he doesn't or that he likes the way things are now. Whenever we talk he always says he misses me and I feel good for awhile but then I go back down into depression again until I hear from him again.
I don't know how to stop these thoughts. I don't know what to do with myself. All I think about is him and how happy he must be, and all I want to do is just sleep or forget about him until this is over with.
The reason I joined this site is because helping other people with their problems makes me feel better for a period of time, but what am I supposed to do in between. I just want to forget I ever loved him so that I can get through these months faster and it's just not working!!
Please help me!
"its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all:\."
^ i totally agree with this quote. immagine never having someone special. so many girls on this site ask questions on how to get a bf because they have never had a serious guy before. think of the positives here, you two left on good terms, its not like hess saying he hates you..some breakups i hear about are reeeally nasty.
the pain is so intense and hard to deal with at first. trust be i have been through it a couple times. you have to give yourself time to heal. its normal to feel hurt for a little while. take things one day at a time.
hang out with friends more, go out and meet new people, maybe get a part time job to keep busy, plan a trip with friends, do something new, join a club, a gym, etc.
surrounding yourself with friends *a great support group* really helps. dont isolate yourself. so many people go through divorces, breakups with people thye have been with for years, and they too go through this hurting process but they move on and meet other peopole.
nobody here can predict the future. you might meet a great guy a few months down the road, you and your ex may work things out, or you might discover that living the single life isnt so bad.
its normal to feel hurt . but in the meantime just try to keep busy and with time things will get easier. please feel free to inbox me anytime and i hope i helped a little :) stay strong hun!
(Rating: 5) When I put this up I think I knew what to expect from people. I love to hear people say that they have been through it too. Thank you very much for good and nice advice!