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Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years, and I honestly do love him. It's the most serious relationship I've ever been in. We live together and everything.

Lately, though, I've kind of been having second thoughts about this whole thing. We've been fighting quite a bit (but we've always fought), and I just miss dating other people. I know it sounds mean, but I can't help it. Sometimes I think I want to be with him, and sometimes I think I don't.

Don't think it's just me being mean and everything, because he's messed up a lot, too. He's lied to me, and some girl told me she slept with him (She's known for being a liar, and he denies it, but I just don't know). The thing he lied to me about, though, was him saying he wasn't with the girl when he was, and stuff like that.

I just need some help, please. Sometimes I just feel like I'm way too deep into this relationship to leave him even if I wanted to.

**Edit** i read your extra information, and this sounds like one of those things where you dont have proof he did it, but you have your suspicions, whatever they may be. its one of those situations where the answer to this problem could be dont jump to conlcusions, let it go. but then again, if you cant trust him and you worry about him being faithful, maybe the relationship isnt a good idea to begin with because trust and faithfulness is number 1 in a relationship.

you know your guy and you know the suspicions you have. you know him better and none of us on here know allll the details or know you guys personally. so your judgement might be the best answer here. just remember, honesty and trust in a relationship is so important.

you may use your judgement and decide to get past these cheating suspicions. if so, be sure you can trust him now, because if he is still being shady or those suspicsions are still there, its like a neverending cirlce and you will be absolutely miserable. just be sure to keep in mind you desserve a great guy, you desserve someone you can trust and communicate with, and always remember you are your own person and if things arent working out, you are strong and you will find someone better down the road.

**feel free to inbox me if you want to ask more questions or update me :) **


Dont feel trapped. You shouldnt feel tied to him, because if its like that he has the power to make you miserable knowingg you will stay with him, he iwll take advantage. i think you should talk to him about your concerns, if he really cares about you then hhe will listen and the two of you can work at it. you can also bring up the girl claiming he slept with her. tell him now is the time to completely come clean, kind of dont freak out and make him trust you so if its true he might tell you it is.

then if you hear that, maybe dumping him is for the best. as for the rest, just tell him how you are feeling. tell him you dont want to be fighting, hopefully together the two of you will try to do new activities and get back on a positive track. however, if he doesnt care, doesnt pull his share in the relationship, or if the fighting continues constantly, breaking up could be for the best

you are your own person, dont feel trapped. think about the people who have been married for 10 years + and have kids but get divorced. they pick up their life and move on, and even find someone new,etc. if this doesnt work out of course it will take time to get over him, but there will be another guy down the road.

i hope he meets you half way and is willing to communicate though


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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the help. I added some additional info about some of the stuff you said.
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