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latley i have been feeling like the world is out to get me. i feel like this is the worst year of my life. and ill tell you why. the boyfriend of almost a year broke up with in the beginning of the school year b.c well he said he doesnt know. so thats great then like a week after that i find a new guy from our school and hes just wikid hott and being upset as i was i made out with him. and the ex thought i didnt love him so he didnt ask me to be his girlfriend again. then the hott guy i hooked up with is flirting with other girls and my parents hate him and are arguing with me about him so i just forgot about him was hurt that another guy hurt me but w.e....then my ipod got taken away by some teacher i got it back with out getting a detention or iss or phone call home so it was all good but made me nervous as hell. through the year i have made new friends they are known as the popular girls and when im with them i dont know who i am im not acting like my old self i miss me i dont even know me any more. then a couple weeks lata a teacher for some stupid reason thougt i lied to her so she called my parents so they grounded me until febuary 11 now if thats not pissing me off enought they are always yelling at me to do this whats wrong blah blah blah and yesterday we got the report card and fisrt semester i had social and i almost failed and it was the only class that i was doing horrible in i tried my hardest to do good but apparently not i could of done better my dad says so now im not alowed to do sports get a job go out nothing. from what he says so im stuck froever my mom messages me on facebook and i dont know if she says im grounded or wat but but she had the topic of the message GROUNDED and the message saying report card? what the hell. so thats just great. and my mom is having all these secrets and i dont want to hear them idont know what they are about but they are worrying me. so im just sick of it and you know its been the worst year ever when someone says to you "wow you are having a bad year". i try to be happy putting a stupid facke ass smile on when really i just want to scream for help i dont know what to do my gpa for school needs to be over a 80 to get a phone and rite now its a 74 and its pissing me off to no limit im trying hard i have 80s and above in all classes except fucking social nd social is over with but i have a feeling if i dont have like a 90 in all classes now that the grade average is going to keep me the same and that means no phone. which scuks i need something good to happen im sick of this i want to cry all the time. and my dads always like wheres the smile whats wrong but if i tell him hell just get mad and ground me some more wich is o so fabulous they are yelling at me for stupid shit and grounding me like i just murderd a cat and left it in the middle of the living room for all to see. i have a problem and i dont know if its something i can control but i dont like the way im living i just want it all to stop but one thing comes to another and its all coming down on me like bricks. what do i do. plz help i cant do this ne more. :[ i need to be my laughing old self again where is she.?

Ohh, wow.
This was my year last year.
Except multiply it by 92348230.
That's how bad mine was.

Okay.
Well, with the boyfriend thing...I know how hard this is, trust me. But the best thing for you right now is to just try your best to forget about him & move on. Find another guy to like. A nice, normal guy who seems like he'd be honest & a great friend. =]
With the friendship with the 'popular' people. Ah, been there so many times. We all got in a huge fight last year & my mom let me skip school for a day to simply think. This was the advice someone gave me. "Think back. Try & remember the last time you laughed the hardest, the last time you were truly happy & could just be yourself. Think about who you were friends with. THOSE are the people you need to be hanging out." So, my advice to you, try that. It might take a while to go back to those people, but it's not impossible, & I know it will help you alot through this.
With your mom & the whole "secrets" thing. Oh yeah; I know how annoying that can be. That happened last year, except it was both my mom AND my dad with secret thing. They were arguing & my dad was freaking out so much, I just said to myself, "you know what? screw it. they can have all the problems they want, but i'm not getting in the middle of it." & I talked it out with my cousins & my close friends, & I'm dealing with it all pretty good right now.
Take the time you're grounded to study. Get your parents to quiz you, so that way if you fail the test, you can simply say, "Well, you know I studied. So, you can't get mad at me for that." That's what I started doing. Hah, even if I studied, I was still failing the tests. I felt pretty stupid.
Buuuut, anyways, pick a day that you're free in the next couple of days. Grab your ipod, wait till it's a little bit warm outside, grab a jacket, & take a walk to get some fresh air & sort everything out.
Also, try keeping a diary. Trust me, it helps alot.

Good luck! =]

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much it helps to get advice from someone who went through a lil bit as i am now ! :]
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