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Ok... So My Boyfriend has some.. family problems with his older brother/guardian....like Incessant rape? I can't take it anymore I've been understanding about it and since I live so far away I can't do anything to stop it but talk to my boyfriend and comfort him when he's depressed. Some of my other friends call me "the fortune cookie" because I'll change completely from a hyper bubbly girl to someone who seems as if they're reading off of fortune cookies!

Countless times I've talked him out of suicide and harming himself, I've even gotten him to stop taking drugs and drinking.

But It seems I've run out of things to say to comfort him, and today I asked him what was wrong.
"My life." was his answer.
I tried to explain it as shattered glass, to relate to how he was feeling. but if anything I think I made him worse off.

So not only does it depress me to see him depressed, to know he lies about how he feels so I won't worry, but him lying just makes me worry more.

I've often said to myself, " How's it feel to know everything you do never matters at all? "

When we first met he said I'd leave just like everyone else in his life, but here I am...a little over a year later! and as each day goes by, no matter how much I love him I'm beginning to think that maybe I've made his life worse off?

So what should I do?
I'm open to any suggestions
because if it's able to make him happy I'm willing to do anything...

I say what I mean and I mean what I say, so I hope you can do the same to help me before I crack and go back to my own ways before he made my life happier...

****EDIT****um ACTUALLY NO. ,ALL im saying is he needs to see a psychiatrist. he needs more help than just you. i dont appreciate your sarcastic tone, what i told you is what i learned. so whatever, thanks for the 3


I took psychology in college, and if there is one thing i have learned its this:

sexual abuse like that is a major problem and a professional psychiatrist is the best answer for him. he needs to talk to a mental health professional about his depression and sexual abuse. i know you want to help, but all the words in the world cant help him. he needs to talk to someone who is trained and give therapy, perhaps meds (although i have read anti depressants aren't recommended for those under 18) but i really feel the need for him to get professional therapy to confront his abuse and depression. i know for this past year you have probably tried everything you can think of to help him, but he is obviously depressed and the abuse is traumatic for anyone to deal with. he should really start seeing a counselor because who knows, one day he might actually go through with the suicide :/
best of luck. please feel free to inbox me

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(Rating: 3) So you're basically saying I can't do anything at all to help and you're saying eventually he'll kill himself.... great advice!
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