HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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Ok... So My Boyfriend has some.. family problems with his older brother/guardian....like Incessant rape? I can't take it anymore I've been understanding about it and since I live so far away I can't do anything to stop it but talk to my boyfriend and comfort him when he's depressed. Some of my other friends call me "the fortune cookie" because I'll change completely from a hyper bubbly girl to someone who seems as if they're reading off of fortune cookies!
Countless times I've talked him out of suicide and harming himself, I've even gotten him to stop taking drugs and drinking.
But It seems I've run out of things to say to comfort him, and today I asked him what was wrong.
"My life." was his answer.
I tried to explain it as shattered glass, to relate to how he was feeling. but if anything I think I made him worse off.
So not only does it depress me to see him depressed, to know he lies about how he feels so I won't worry, but him lying just makes me worry more.
I've often said to myself, " How's it feel to know everything you do never matters at all? "
When we first met he said I'd leave just like everyone else in his life, but here I am...a little over a year later! and as each day goes by, no matter how much I love him I'm beginning to think that maybe I've made his life worse off?
So what should I do?
I'm open to any suggestions
because if it's able to make him happy I'm willing to do anything...
I say what I mean and I mean what I say, so I hope you can do the same to help me before I crack and go back to my own ways before he made my life happier... (link)
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omg ok if he doesnt like doctors then at least tell an adult to get his brother to stop raping him!Hes gotta tell somebody even if its the police!yeah yeah i know its his brother but what his brothers doin can lead your boyfreind to killin himself one day man.Talk him into telling the cops?Where his parents at?Do they know about this?Well i really think that your boyfreind should tell them and if he dont do it you gotta tell them YOURSELF cuz your his girlfreind and you want him to be happy and you want this to end don you.
MY second idea is that you can tell a trusted adult YOU know about his probelm and see what theyll tell you to do,since theyre older and more experienced theyll deffinetly know how to help your guy.
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mmm.. ok for starters.. his parents both passed away ): he loves his brother unconditionally and.. would never tell on him meaningI can't even bitch about his brother to him without offending my boyfriend.
I've tried going to people.. Ive gone to my step mother and all she says is that I shouldn't be having a long distance relationship (I'm in Massachusetts, he's in Georgia) I broke down once last year during school and the guidance consoler wanted to know every single thing about him that way she could call DSS and ever since then my boyfriend hasn't been as open to me as he was before because he fears I'll break down again, and blurt things that he doesn't want blurted.... which he seriously doesn't know I joined this site because I once again cracked.
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