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I am 34/F. My best friend/cousin told me the other day that she has contemplated not being friends with me anymore because of things I say to her, i.e., I told her I wasn't going to an event because it was boring, and she was offended because it is part of her family tradition and her parents plan it every year. (I had no idea her parents planned it. It is a city-sponsored event.) She also said that when I was little, my mom would talk crap about her family and I would repeat it to them. I don't doubt that this is true, but it happened when I was a kid so I can't remember anything that was said, and neither can my cousin. She just remembers it happening. I teasingly called her a "hoverer," and she was offended because she has heard me in the past say that others were hoverers and it was negative.
I am upset that she has contemplated not being my friend anymore and also that she seems to be overly sensitive. I actually watch what I say around her because I know she is overly sensitive to begin with, I just didn't realize how much. I have not spoken with her since she told me all this. What should I do/say?

I realize that i'm only nineteen and might not bring much knowledge to your questions but i'm willing to try,

from what you've already told me about your friend i agree that she seems very sensitive. and it also seems that she is being a little immature. i mean- okay you said something in the past that she brought up and never brought to your attention before correct? well, why now? why does she all of a sudden feel the need to tell you after all this time what you said bothered her? it just doesn't make sense. and i'm sure that she does things to annoy you, and you aren't putting them in her face. she is just being selfish i think and not understanding. atleast you were being honest when you said that event would be boring. she might of thought that she just wanted you there because you're someone she cares about. and if it means that much to her then you should just go. maybe try apologizing to her that you offended her- clearly it wasn't intentional; and tell her that you meant nothing negative when you said she was a hoverer, just pointing out a fact. she needs to be more understanding of your thoughts and feelings too. i tried to shed some light on the matter..
good luck and godbless. :)

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