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19/f - I am in serious need of advice. :(

I've been hanging out with my older brother's friends for about 3 years now. My brother is 25 and his friends range from 21-27.

One of my brother's friends has a New Years Eve party every year, and I always go. I've always liked one of his friends, "B", who is 24 now and we've finally got to know each other. I really think he likes me as well. :]

Well, 2 days after the party, "B" and some of my brother's other friends asked me to hang out. It was already 11:30PM and my mom gave me a real hard time about going, but I ended up going anyway.

After that, I decided to tell my brother and dad about "B". My brother is, I'm guessing, upset with me about hanging out with "B" and hasn't spoken to me since the 5th. My dad is uncomfortable with "B" being 24. My mom is really upset about the whole thing as well because she thinks me hanging out with "B" is gonna ruin everything.

The thing is, me and "B" really have a lot in common and I really like him a lot. I've secretly hung out with him three times since then, because if I told my family where I was going, they probably wouldn't let me.

I've told practically EVERYONE I know about the situation and nobody thinks it's a big deal AT ALL. Just my family.

I have no idea what to do. I just got done talking to my mom about some things, and she basically hates me right now. She said I'm turning into someone she doesn't like. But it's like, I'm 19 and it's my life, why can't I just do what I want and date who I want?

This really isn't fair. I'm at the point where I just don't care anymore, and I'm gonna see "B" when I want. Why are the only people who don't approve have to be my family? Please help. It's got to the point where I doubt it matters what I say, they're never gonna be happy with it, so why not just do what I want and show them that nothing bad is going to happen and that they're blowing this way out of proportion? I don't know, PLEASE HELP. :'[

I dated a guy who was older than myself, and my parents didn't approve at first. Neither did my older brother or sister. My dad was practically furious that he was 3 years older than myself. I was so frustrated, and didn't know how to go about the situation.

I finally told them "If you really love me, you'd want me to be happy, I've finally found someone I truly like, and I'd appreciate support from the people I love most" and it took them a little bit, but they finally agreed with me, and got along with him great. It was a little odd for my brother at first, but he realized there wasn't much he could do.

They say that I was happy, and they were happy too. I think you just have to tell them how important it is, and that you really like him.

It's not easy to do, but you have to stand up for yourself if you really do like him, and think it'll go somewhere.

I hope I helped somewhat, just here sayin' I know how that goes, and support is here if ya need it.

Good luck with the situation (:

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(Rating: 5) Thank u so much! It's nice knowing I'm not the only one who's had to deal with this. I think I'm gonna try to do what u said and see what happens. :]
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