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Ok. So i'm not a virgin, but my boyfriend is, and I want to have sex with him and all, but I don't know how to start off. Like I don't want to have to tell him what to do ("ok, take your pants off", "Come here," "do this do that") you know?
So is there anything I can do to make him want to be in control. We talk about it and stuff and he tells me all that he WANTS to do, but it never happens. Does that mean he's scared of me? I like him and all and think hes overly sexy but he's not that experienced and stuff. I don't know how to get him to warm up to anything either. I've always gone out with more experienced guys.
Help?
If he knows you're not a virgin... then the idea of you having experience is somewhat intimating. He may not feel good enough or know what he's doing exactly.. So you're going to have to take control and show him that it's okay. It's so easy to talk about it. He's probably nervous about what he's doing or the size of his penis. If you happen to be alone one time, you should take advantage of it.. if you feel it's right. Also, since he's a virgin.. you have to be sure he's ready. Some guys out there really do.. want something special for their first time. My guy friend didn't want to have sex with his girlfriend too soon and she kinda forced him. He was kinda upset about the place and time.. so you should set up a date or a weekend planned together. He may think you want to wait if you're not direct about it. If he's nervous/afraid.. of course he's going to try to avoid it as long as possible. Make sure he's REALLY okay first.
Some guys are dominant while others aren't. So you should take control first and soon he should be too. If you want to make him take control, you should wear something a little revealing if you're alone.. Like booty shorts or something like that. That really gets to my boyfriend and he gets so dominant. Just make out and get on to of him. Let your hands wander to his jeans and unbutton it. He should get the message.. but look at him to see if it's okay. If he's not taking the hint, you should speak to him and see if he's the type of guy that "wants to wait when it's love or for the right place/time sort of thing"
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oh ok: )
thanks!
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