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Hey everyone Im a 15 year old girl in highschool and I need some advice. My used to be best friend recently started getting drunk about a month into our freshman year. At first she started talking about it and I got really mad at her for even thinking about it. I made her promise not to go drinking and promised me she wouldn't. Then I here on homecomming that she drank before the dance with some of my other friends but I just assumed that she was acting crazy at the dance, not actually drunk. I had to hear from SOMEONE ELSE that she drank. So indtead of confronting her I gave her a complete silent treatment for 3 weeks. She finally wrote me a note saying how she was sorry how she messed up our friendship, how we used to be best friends, how shes an idiot, how shell never drink again and stuff like that. I decided to forgive her a few days later. So time went on and we were cool, but then like 4 days ago i found out she FOR SURE was drinking over the weekend. Then today I found out shes planning to go get drunk this weekend. Ive stopped talking to her since i found out she drank last weekend. Am I doing something wrong? How do I handle this? Do i talk to her? I care about her soooooo much. she also has a problem with being taken advantage of by boys. Her mom has cancer, her dads an ex meth user. She keeps trying to work things out with me but I always brush her off. Sometimes im pretty nasty w/ her. Theres more sides to the story, but i think im running out of room so i'll stop. Thanks for taking the time to read this...
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Your friend has a drinking problem. She isnt drinking just for fun, its more than that it sounds like. A drinking problem is not somethign you can control without help, I truly beeleive she values your friendship, but shes caught up in bad stuff right now at a young age. She could be depressed, desperate to become 'popular' maybe there is a family history of alcoholism, i dont know. if i were you, i would try talkig to her. dont yell or give her silent treatments because like i said before, its not in her control. she has to seek help, talk to a counselor, etc. i heard a story a couple weeks ago about 3 freshman who overdosed on painkillers in school and had to go to the hospitol. there are so many girls like them making stupid choices, desperate for attention.
(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot for the advice. Really. I guess you could say I already hang out with the "popular" freshman but I just realized ur right. She is doing it 4 the attention. I guess i just needed to hear someone else tell me that. Thanks soooo much again.