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Alright. Im 15. And I do know that right now is really early to start having sex. or whatever. But i feel really pressured. Everyone had girlfriends or boyfriends. And Im like the odd one out. And I feel like, whenever I do have a boyfriend, and I do refuse to have sex, they might breakup with me. Because right now is so sex realated. Everything is about sex. And more sex. Or "head".. I dont know. So Im thinking what is the worse thing that can happen if I do decide to have sex right now. I will just be up to date. And If i use a condom. Everything will be ok..??
And just so you know. Im not the one just to go find some dude and have sex with him. I will go through the regular process or whatever. and like wait like 3 months to start..but im still really iffy about the situation.??

I dont know. I just feel out.

Feeling out is nothing compared to what can happen when you have sex. Sure, I first had sex when I was 16 and my bf was 15, but we had been together a while and neither of us had had sex before, so there was absolute certainty that neither of us had an std. But I did have a few times when my period was way late and I thought I might be pregnant. That would not have been good.
Anyway, you said you want to know the worst thing that can happen if you do decide to have sex right now. Here is the list:
Pregnancy
AIDS
Gonorrhea
Clamydia
other STDs
And if you use a condom, well, they are not guaranteed. Condoms can break. Guys have even been known to lie and say they are using them. In the heat of the moment, it may not be noticed. Or you could just forget. All it takes is one time. That is how I got my son (Ok, I was 20 and engaged, but still . . . one time without a condom and I got pregnant).
If you do decide you are ready for sex, it is not a bad thing. You just need to be sure you are ready and that you are with the right person. Make sure that person knows what you want (insist on protection!). If you want to wait, that is good too. Sure, you don't feel like part of the crowd, but are the risks really worth feeling in? Think of this: they are all having sex, possibly a lot. They are all at risk for the problems. If being in ends up meaning being in the hospital, is that where you really want to be? What is most important is what you are comfortable with, not what everyone else thinks you should be doing.
Anyway, you seem really uncertain. You even say you feel iffy about it. To me, that says you aren't quite ready yet. I think that is good. Stick to what you feel good about. If you give in to pressure, you may not feel so great about it. Your first time should be on your terms, not theirs.

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