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If you discovered that your drunken boyfriend had gotten a blowjob at a party from a stranger whose name he didn't even know, would you be bothered by this? I might add this was a couple of years ago, before we knew each other. He just admitted it to me and I've been weird about it ever since. I haven't even been able to talk to him. I can't get it off my mind. I've just totally lost respect for him for it. I realize people make mistakes but it's really bothering me. =/ He does regret it at least but still.

So..uh.. what's wrong with me? How can I stop holding this against him? Do I have a right to look down on him for this?


19/f

well im a 20/f and m y boyfriend definately has a past that i dont like and like you i find it hard sometimes wen i think about it Its hard not to hold it against him, but you just have to realize people change...A lot of people guys and girls have a crazy past or whatever you wanna call it and the fact that your boyfriend seemed to have had that stage in his life its probably a good thing and will keep him more loyal to you. Thats how I try to look at it... I mean I still make jokes to my boyfriend saying he was a pig for some stuff he did but I know those days of his lives are over so I try not to be too hard on him. so my advice to you is try not to think about it and make sure he knows how you feel about it and im sure youll eventually get over it and be able to laugh about it.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice! I probably will be laughing about it in a matter of time.
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