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Q: I'm 17 years old. Male.

I recently got a job at Sears. I love it. This may sound weird, but I wear eyeliner. I guess I just like it. Anyways. When I wore it to work, my manager told me not to wear it anymore. The next day, I still wore it. He told me that he would make me leave if he saw me wearing eyeliner at work again. He said it isn't "business professional".

To me, this seems like it's prejudice. Women can wear it, but men can't? In the handbook, Sears claims to not discriminate based on gender, but I'm starting to think otherwise.

What should I do? I really want to wear it and express myself at work, but I also need this job.
Legally, yes, it's gender discrimination, and that overrides any kind of boss's opinion or wishes. But you might want to see it from his point of view. Our society looks down upon anything especially out of the ordinary (unfortunately,) and it is also very judgemental. People could make many right/wrong assumptions about a guy wearing eyeliner, and give the store a bad name. Of course, this is never always the case, but in business, you have to be more 'professional' and not 'expressive.' I would suggest that if your boss insults you or you feel like you've been discriminated, in that he told you he'd fire youif you wore eyeliner anymore, I would talk to someone legal about your rights. Now, I would talk to him and try to find a compromise if that's at all possible.

thanks! =]

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