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Here's the deal. This isn't one of those stories where I ask advice for my friend. It really is him. Alright, well a little while ago I went to my cousins house and I met his neighbor whom I clicked with immedietly. We had this instant atraction that was werid because Iusualy wouldn't go for guys like him. I'm a good girl, because of the choices I make, and he's more of the bad boy who's been through alot. So we liked eachother a little bit, but he lives about an hour away and I have a boyfriend, and he had a girlfriend.The feelings faded how I wanted them too. When we got to know eachother, he told me that he cuts. I got him to stop and he promied me that he'd never do it again, but only because he loves me and that he wants to make sure that I trust him. I got him through alot of stuff and I became his "hero" as he says. A little while after that he told me that he missed his ex and that his life meant nothing to him anymore and I had to convince him to not take his life. I don't say anything inconsiderate and I talk to him about his feelings. I know how to play. He thanked me for the help and everything was fine for awhile. Then, yesturday, he told me that he broke up with the girlfriend that he currently had because they lived far away. I asked him if I could help and he said no, because, "It scares me how much I care about you, and I can't take loving you anymore." I didn't understand what he meant by this and I tried over and over again to ask him but he never gave me the explaination that I wanted. I thought we were over what we had, but maybe he doens't like me anymore. I asked if he still had feelings for me and he said yes, but I just really don't know. I asked him if he broke up with his girlfriend because of me and he said that he didn't know. I'm gonig up to my aunts house on monday and I'm gonig to see him because he is my aunts neighbor. I'm just afraid that things will be different and that I'll make him feel weird. We had somthing, I'll admit. I love the boyfriend that I have right now and I don't want anything to rekindle with my aunts neighbor. I want to be there for him, but I don't wnat to fall for him. I had a big problem with this last time and it almost caused me and my boyfriend to brake up. This kid means alot to me, and he changed me as a person and I see life alot differently. I just recently lost one of my best friends and he helped me get through. Now I want to be there for him. I can't have him take his life or hurt himself. Please...please help me. I sound desperate, but what would you do if you were me.

you could help me, help him save his LIFE.

thankyou and God bless all who resppond.

alright first of all, you can't help who you fall for if you controlled your feelings i think everyone in this world would be a lot different. just make sure not to do anything you might regret who means more to you him or your boyfriend? with everything he said to you it is pretty much obvious in my book the kid likes you but he obviously has some problems. you can't change someone unless they want to and if he tells you about all this he obviously wants some kind of help. you can't stop him from anything though. you can tell him how you feel about it and advise him to talk to someone professional about it but who knows if he'll do that. i know that you want to help and i do want you to but all that you can do is try and talk to him and tell him how you feel about it. don't blame yourself for what he does either you don't control other peoples decisions but you can impact them. don't let this take over your life either he's important and i understand that but he is not your responsibility just talk to him the best you can.

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much! This kind of helped, but really, I'm not sure if he has feelings for me. Some of the things that he says can be taken in differnet ways. I just want to help that's all. I mean he's my friend and if anything happened I'd be devistated.

thanks tho!
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