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ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

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I'm 15 years old, female i live in Iowa. i've never liked the computer much, but for the past six months, ive been on it every night for an average of five hours and sometimes more. the reason-- i met this guy, he's 17 and he lives in california. the first time i met him, we talked for 14 hours straight. (not exagerating) he's so great.. i can talk to him about anything and i'm understood so well.. i can understand him too and he says he's never felt the way he feels when talking to me...this probably sounds creepy but it's honestly not. i really love him.. i don't know why. i just do. i know 15 is young to love and probably to young. i've never felt this way about a guy.. i look at other guys and see nothing in them, no future. i just want him. We both have these feelings and want to meet. i know it's dangerous. I've been warned about how he can be different in person or not even be what he says he is. also that he could rap/kidnap/kill me. I know all of the bad stuff that can happen yet i still want to see what could happen. I don't want to ask myself 5 years from now what could have happened if we did meet. Even through all of this, i'm scared alot. it's so hard to like someone so much who is so far away. is it wrong for me to want to meet him in person?... if not.. what should i do? >

Hey darling!

Let me start by saying that actually i've gone through what you're going through! Met this guy online, 2 yrs older than, and lived halfway across the country from me... and of course, that first night of talking it was bvious that there was this instat connection between us as we spoke endless hours into the night! haha! After that night we talked for several hours on a daily basis. and just like you say, we were able to talk to each other, and we just understood and wecould just talk and be. Acouple of months later wedecided it was time to meet.. We wanted to be together very badly. To meet in person. It was quite scary to tell you the truth. Specially snice he was older, he was the one who flew to me. I was a nervous wreck. I got the same talks about how do you know is his not this or that.. be careful... everything i'm sure you're getting. Any way though, to make long story short, in a few days we will be celebrating our 2yr annirsary together. It turned out that in person just like we did online, we clicked. And we were glad we took the decition to follow our feeling and go through what we went through.
Now the only difference is that i was 2 yrs older than you at the time.
Also, i don't know if you've talked sbout him to your parents. If they don't, it makes things a lot easier if they do know. I told my mom, and she wasa little shocked at first. But also, we became a couple before we were together in person. Mom knew about him, had talked to him and the whole deal. Which made it a lot easier when it came to arranging the meeting. As mom was the one who took me to the airport and the whole thing. Drove him to the house and or me to go pick him up at his hotel..
So obviously nothing really wrong with wanting to meet someone you have feelings for. I know i did, i absolutely loved him, and him me.. and we went from there. We were able to tell that our feelins were very true, even in person. haha!
If youhave any questions or anything you can contact me =) I'm an expert in this field! haha!

Best of luck!

VB


Yeah when it comes to parents its a little more tricky. the fact thet you're 15 makes a bit of a difference. and although he's only 2 years older than you, like my bf is and was, but older, the age difference makes it seem bigger the younger you are. So in that sence that's why parents are ery hesitant about the whole idea.
What I would suggest is give ita little bit of time. If you can, try to make it so maybe there's some kind of communication between the two....
I know it sounds crazy, lame and whatever but because of the situation is basically a necessity =/ haha trust me, if my mom hadn't felt that this guy really did love me, and had no intentions of harming me, by talking to him got to feel that his feeling for me were genuine.... lets just put it this way, she went and took me shopping for new cute clothes and whatnot specially for when we went to the airport to pick him up... haha!
But yeah, just talk to your parents about him, and let therebe an opening for talk between them. And don't push them too too hard, they'll come to their senses eventually and let you guys meet. Oh, and remind them that you wouldn't want to go alone, for them (1 or the other or whoever) that would go with you... Parents like being active in your life and mak sure you're ok... haha! duh... haha! But yeah =)

Any other questions you can email me too...
or let me know how its going! that'd be great! ..if you'd like haha! =)
"crazycurious555@aol.com"

=)
Best of luck! =)

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(Rating: 5) omygosh! thanks so much... i guess i knew all the time that i DO want to meet him.. but im terrified... i have told my mom... and she just doesn't get it... at all.. and my dad just thinks im a little girl falling in love to easily.... its frustrating... but we are a couple... :) its just really good with him right now.... thanks again... but do you think theres a way to get my parents to understand more?>
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