I'm not here to tell you what to think or do, but to give you as much honest, accurate information as possible. If I don't know an answer to a specific question, I'll research it before replying. I won't sugarcoat things; my job is to tell it like it is.
I've got a particular interest in sexual health and sexuality. I know a lot about fertility and pregnancy - and firsthand now, as I've just had twins. I'm also an accredited sexual health worker.
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I'm having a crisis of faith at the moment.
I've been dating this guy for over a year. And I guess things are getting a little stale.
I've met this boy Dan, who is very similar to me.
And to me, he's more attractive than my current boyfriend. He has a lip ring and a mohawk, and thus more my'type'.
And lately I've been feeling really attached to him, and I think I like him.
It's just, I have a really great thing going with my current boyfriend,and I don't know what i should do. (link)
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Stay with someone long enough, and it's inevitable that at some point you'll think things are stale. This is what happens in longterm relationships. Now, don't get me wrong. I don't mean to paint a doom-and-gloom picture without any excitement, fun, or real connection.
But most relationships do reach a point when the people in them need to make a committment to keeping things alive. This could be doing new things together, or whatever else takes your fancy. Alternately, longterm relationships offer a lot of benefits that are missing in new ones.
New relationships are amazing - that dizzy feeling, the excitement, how wonderful it all is. But perhaps there's something to be said for the beauty of two people really knowing each other, being there for each other, etc.
It can be tough to figure out if what you are feeling is a normal dip in a relationship, or it is signalling something more serious. It's quite normal to be attracted to other people even when you're really love in with your partner. The question is, how much have you invested in your partner? How much are you getting from the relationship? And while you use your head to answer these, it's important to also use your heart.
I wish you the best.
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Wow.
Thank you.
I wasn't expecting such a thoughful and logn answer.
I needed to hear some pros and cons.
Thanks again.
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