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Hi, I'm 17 and think I may be pregnant. I'm not sure yet so I am scheduling an appointment soon for the doctors. I was with my boyfriend for two years and September 2nd was the last time we had sex. I had my period September 11th and it was a regular flow-no 'spotting'. Now I'm not even sure if it was my period because I feel sick liked I've caught something, have gained a little weight-but that could be diet related, and my stomache feels chubby even when I flex it-its like jiggly and mushy feeling(so wierd).
Me and my ex are no longer together and live 300 miles away from eachother, and don't speak much but still love eachother deep down- yet I have no intention of being back with him. I'm scared I may be pregnant but am not sure and although I'm waiting to see a doctor I'm still freaking out! I should be graduating my last year of highschool this year early and moving on with my life... But does that include a child?
What I want to know is if that stomache jiggly/fat thing is a pregnancy symptom or if it is... Should I be seeing this now? I've only noticed it THIS last week.
& If I find out I AM pregnant do you have any suggestions on what I should do...(Keep it, abortion,adopt..ETC.)???
I don't care much if it's constructive criticism, as long as its a true opinion. All I'm asking for is your suggestion because I am still young, but yet could regret this for the rest of my life and have a guilty concious.
Please answer HONESTLY.
-Thanks-
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Your stomach would have not changed size or shape this early in pregnancy; in fact, the belly often feels very tight to the touch.
It's interesting that you say you had a normal period, and a few lines later wonder if it was a period at all. This would suggest that your fears about being pregnant may be playing tricks on your mind.
Things to think about that may shed more light on the situation: Did you use protection when you had sex? Did you last period come when it was due?
Going to the doctor is a great idea. When you go, make sure you bring the start date of your last period - even if you are unsure whether it was a real period or not.
I can understand your mind racing to conclusions and trying to figure out what you would do if you were pregnant, but in reality it might be best to find out if you actually ARE pregnant first. One worry at a time.
If you and your ex recently broke up, or if you have mixed feelings about the break up, you could be putting those worries into being anxious about pregnancy. I do think the mind and body are very linked.
The best advice I could give you for this evening is to relax - take a bath, meditate, draw - whatever helps you calm down. Schedule an appointment to see your doctor - don't forget to consider confidentiality if you do not want your parents to find out.
Please let me know if you need further information. I wish you the best.
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Your answer was greatly apprecuated and helped alot. I may contact you soon to ask another question because you seem very well-rounded. Thanks so much.
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