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im Kristin. 20 years old. Criminal justice major/psychology minor at Georgia Southern University - let the good times roll =]. i'm really laid back, love talking to people, and having a good time. i get on here when i'm bored so if you have a question, inbox me!

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I have a boyfriend of a year and 3 months. but, i think im starting to like another guy, and i think he likes me. things between my boyfriend and I have been rough lately and this boy asks how we are everyday and he always tries to flirt with me and even asked me to go to his football game. Although i do have really strong feeings for my boyfriend, i kind of want a change and just be single and flirt or maybe go out with this new guy. BUT, I cannot picture my life without my boyfriend in it and i have a feeling that if i get to know this other boy more i'll just want my boyfriend back. Do you guys think that i should just take the plunge and just go for it? (The new guy...oh, and i havent liked anyone since my boyfriend and i have been going out.. this is the 1st person i've liked since) Or, do you think i should stick with my boyfriend that i have now because he is a sure thing? please help.

wow, that is sooo scary. i could swear up and down i wrote this. i JUST got out of the same exact situation and my bf and i have been together for a yr and 3 months too. the guy i liked was the 1st guy i had liked since my boyfriend and heres what i can tell you. i asked my bf if we could take a break [which before i did it, i thought was such a stupid idea], because of the fact that i liked the other guy and it didnt feel right being with one guy and liking another, and because of some other stuff too, but yeah. it broke both our hearts in half. its true you never know what you have until you lose it. we both cried for days, i cried longer actually but yeah we cried together and everything. it ended up nothing past flirting happened between the other guy and i, despite the fact he liked me too. what i do know is my bf and i were apart for a little over a month yet we still acted the exact same; there was no denying we loved each other and pretty soon i was getting over the other guy; he started acting real jerkish sometimes and he just didnt compare to my boyfriend ya kno? any time he and i flirted, or held hands, or anytime he kissed me on the cheek before leavin school, the first thing that came to my mind was my boyfriend and if i was doing the right thing. im over him now and my bf and i are back together and happy as ever. yeah it was a real rough patch but we got through it. dont just stick with your boyfriend because he is a 'sure thing'. i couldnt picture my life without my boyfriend either, and sure enough, i couldnt do it. the question is, if you and your guy do go on a break or break up or whatever, what would happen if you wanted him back... would he be too scared of being hurt again? would he hold it against you? is yall's relationship strong enough to deal with that? who knows, you may find you really like this other guy and yall could end up staying together. if not, you could still be fine without your boyfriend. but decide whats more important.. having a little fun, not being commited and just dating around, or being with someone you know you love and you know loves you, who you could possibly have a real future with.

hope that helps a little! my inbox or AIM is available if you have more questions =]

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, that helped SO much. I appreciate it! :-D
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