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I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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I grew up in SouthWest Ohio and I definatley talk/express myself like a true Ohioan with all the "please?, queer, sucker, gymshoes, pop", etc. One problem... I live in New Jersey now. I moved in Jan 07. People here are mean/self-centered/rude and just not friendly & take themselves wayyy too seriously.. I'm a very outgoing and friendly person but I feel like I can't talk to people here because they'll either look at me like "excuse me, do I know you?" or make fun of the way I talk. I like to joke around and have fun [without making fun of other people] and I can't seem to find anyone cool like that. I've tried being quiet and wearing what everyone else wears but it's boring.
I'm a great friend to have but people only want shallow friendships where they don't really give a damn about what happens to their friends as long as as they are still happy.
Any idea on how to get through this? I'd really like to be my friendly self again...
PS, I'm 16/female, incomming Junior. (link)
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Hi honey,
I understand how you feel. I have always known that people are definitly more friendly down south, and we up here in the north think we are above everyone else. And guess what, we're not. But if we don't face that fact, we assume we have gotten away with it. Don't despair. There are some real people, you will find them. It just takes time. Find some volunteer work that you could be happy doing, and you will meet some real people. Work with kids, mostly kids are normal. Though they are starting with that "I'm better than you attitude" younger and younger. I didn't raise my boys that way, and I can't be he only one.
I see in you a person who loves themselves. This period you are going through will be short. Because you are young and you are surrounded by young people. And young people take themselves too seriously. Don't loose yourself or become like them. You are the better person and will get through life relatively unscathed. You just have to make it to adulthood where you will meet a better class of people. And people will gravitate towards you because happyness and confidence is attractive. Good luck to you dear
Michele
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