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Xenolan
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Hi My problem is well I have been bfs with this friend lets call her jo for almost five years now and I have always been there for her and she for me but you see she turned 18 a few months back and I dont turn until two weeks and well I new she would get new friends and yes I am a little jealous I supppose but its not unfounded you see she recently made this new friend lets say amy and well she doesnt have time for me now. we used to phone each other every night and now when she tells me to phone shes never there shes out with amy. It at first didnt bother me but now it pisses me off cause we made a deal that we would never let someone come between us and that wed always be there for each other.
Also any time we spend time together as I say a rareity in itself shes always txtin or phonin this person and not payin any attention to the fact that shes supposed to be with me.
I guess what im sayin is that I think Im loseing the one person I have ever trusted and Its killin me and I cant tell her cause then ahll lose her anyway and that will kill me once and for all.
Another thing that really bugged me was she asked me if I wanted to go clubbing with her and when I said yes as its the week after my bday she said that I could "TAG ALONG" with her and amy.
I really need help cause this is really gettin me down and soz its so long.
lxx
please help!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Oh, dear. That promise you made to never let someone come between you and to always be there for each other is very sweet. It's just nearly impossible to do. Ask most people. It's the natural order of things that people will drift in and out of your life. Once you get a serious boyfriend or girlfriend, you will see that friendships get put on the backburner. Maybe it's just a new friendship with exciting things for Jo to do with Amy, but I think your friend is simply drifting away.
My advice to you is that you have to learn to be okay with that. It's the nature of things. You should find someone else to fulfill you in the way Jo does now. If you want to maintain your relationship with Jo, I suggest you start getting cozy with Amy as well. There may be nothing to do to save the close relationship you have with Jo, but it might be worth a try making your friendship a threesome with Amy (not sexually). Try not to be a third wheel. It really sounds to me, though, like Jo is looking for more adventure or a different type of relationship than you and she share.
Best wishes.
Sabine
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Sorry but this is not the kinda advice I needed!!
thx anyway.
lxx
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