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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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I love my boyfriend to death, but he always goes from being nice and sweet, to an a**hole at the drop of a hat. We've been going out for two years so i know what gets to him, so im always avoiding saying or doing thingsthings so he doesn't blow up at me. He gets really mad and throws tantrums and throws things or swears and takes all of the frustration out on me. Like today for instance, we had a really great day, and then i went over his house to help him make a posterboard of pictures for his dads upcoming party, and everything was fine until i told him that a spot where he put a picture didn't look right, and he gets mad. he flings the pictures to the ground, and says "hes done" and "i can do the f**king thing by myself." He gets mad over the stupidest things, really. I finished it without him, when it wasn't even my own dad, and i cleaned up his mess, because i didnt want to start anything else. Bad example maybe. But there has been times when he has literally punched walls, flipped coffee tables, threw whatever object was around, just screams and up and leaves, and i get scared.
I always feel like a bad girlfriend in the end. And i shouldn't because i do so much for him, and hes just unappreciative. He makes me feel so low of myself sometimes. He always ends up apologizing, but im getting sick of the same old thing. He always says hes sorry, and that hes gonna work on his anger, and that he loves me, but i dont even know if i can believe it anymore. I love him, a lot, but i dont want his anger to get to the point where he begins to physically take it out on me, because it's hit emotionally & verbally already. Like what do i do? Some days i just want to end it [whenever he's acting like this], and some days i dont want to because i love him. its really hard. i try talking to him, but he gets mad. Go figure. Any advice? Open for anything. Please.
My dad does the exact same thing.
Almost every day he throws fits & freaks out at someone in my family & I h-a-t-e it.
When he does that, just walk away. I think those things you said basically describe alot of symptoms of being bi-polar & my dad acts like him, & that`s what the doctor said he was -- bi-polar. He even freaked out when he was told THAT. Pretty sad, right?
I honestly don`t think your boyfriend can control it, but you should seriously break it off now. I know it`s hard cause he can be so sweet sometimes, but think about when he`s the complete opposite & throwing things, etc. & take in to consideration what you mentioned earlier -- it can get worse. If you ever h ave a problem later on in your relationship somehow, will you ever be able to fix it or talk about it? Nope, he`ll get mad either way.
So, I know how you feel, but pleeeeeeease, end it if you can. =/
Good luck!
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