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I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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okay all of my friends and so many people tell me how gorgeous and beautiful i am. but i cant find myself to believe it. and no guy has ever told me i was pretty. and ive never had a boyfriend. i feel so ugly..... (link)
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WEll it could be that your are so pretty that boys find you intimidating. You shouldn't be surprised to learn that boys, (and girls) many of them think that they are not pretty or good looking either, and the absolutely hate the thought of rejection, so won't ask a girl out no matter how hot they think she is.
What you are feeling is normal for your age. THis will all change when you get older. All of you, the people you know and see around you, your friends....they will all mature as they get older and feel more confident about talking to members of the opposite sex.
It will take some time. Listen in a way, you could look at it as being lucky, because there are a LOT of jerks out there, and you are better off if some of them never talk to you.
Not ever having had a boyfriend does not make you ugly. Jeez, that would make half the girls in the world ugly. And that is not so, looks do not determine how many boyfriends you will have in your life.
If you feel ugly at 13 just because no boy has ever asked you out, what are you going to do when you are 16, and no boy has asked you out, are you going to commit suicide.
Start now to find your self worth inside you, and not based on how many boyfriends you have and you will be a lot happier. I remember feeling the say way when I was young, but now I look back on it, and guess what. I had more boyfriends in my life than any one person deserves. And listen, I could have missed more than half of them, and been a lot happier. So my point is, there will be lots of men in your life....and while now you may look upon that as being a wonderful thing.....it really just presents a whole new set of problems. Don't rush it. Enjoy your simple life while you have it. It won't last for long.
And if you want to know how pretty you are, don't look at the girls in current magazines and on TV, they have special make-up artists and hair dressers and special lighting and special cameras.THey don't look that good in person. Go to the supermaket and take a good look around. You'll see that you are very pretty.
Michele
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hey thanks for this advice its the best advice i have ever gotten. i wish i could give you more than a 5. :]. but the only thing is i wouldnt commit suicide when im sixteen b/c i have so muchh other things going for me. but thanks for the awesome advice it will help alot.
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