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I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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would it feel weird if you & your boyfriend went out.. and did some things.. like lets just say "have sex" (because thats the closest thing i can come up with). and you break up ... would it feel weird if you lost it to him, and then ya'll broke up?
maybe i'm scared he might tell somebody what we did.. that's the thingg... >. (link)
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You are smart to be concerned about this.Your gut instincts are telling you that your boyfriend has a big mouth, and you should be careful. We women would make a lot less mistakes if we listed to our gut instincts. They are usually correct.
So you say that it would bother you if you and your boyfriend were intimate, and he told someone. So don't forget that. Because it could happen. the only way it won't happen is if you wait, wait and wait. Wait until you are sure the he is mature enough to not kiss and tell. Or wait until you are sure that he is not going to grow up very soon, and if you want a mature relationship, then you will have to move on.
Once you have figured that out, then your decision to be intimate with your boyfriend will be easier to decide. There is no reason why you should NOT consider his behavior, (I mean how he would act, after the fact) if you guys had sex. I
mean you must know girls who did have sex with their boyfriends, they boyfriend blabbed, and now they are sorry. So to avoid that, and yes I think you are smart to want to avoid it, then don't have sex until you can be sure. And don't ask him because he'll say that he would never tell, go by is actions. Even test him a little. Tell him something about yourself, something a little secret, and see if he tells anyone, then you'll know that he has a big mouth. Good reason to avoid him altogether.
There are lots of guys in the world. Find a nice one, you'll be much happier in the end.
Michele
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thank you soo much! i love your advice :]
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