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I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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ok.. well.. this has 3 parts to it...
ok..part one:: i had sex with my boyfriend the day after my period, we did not use protection... now im not sure if it is possible to get pregnant the day after your period (i read you can not get pregnant one week after & one week before)... the second part:: he and i got into a fight one day, i got extremely drunk and had unsafe sex with another guy 1 week (5days) before my period.. again (i read you can not get pregnant one week after & one week before).. third part:: well i am currently late for my period.. not many days but a few... but i am never late... i have never been late.. ever...
do you think it is possible i am pregnant, or just stressing and so my peroid is late.. and if yes you think i am...who do you think is most likey to be the father????
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What you understand about when you can and cannot get pregnant is false. The only time you can't get pregnant when you have unprotected sex is when you ALREADY ARE PREGNANT.
So, while it is LESS LIKELY that you will get pregnant during your period, the day after your period, etc, etc. it is NOT IMPOSSIBLE. So you could very well be pregnant. It may be more likely that the second boy is the father, but only a paternity test will tell 100% for sure.
Depending on what YOU are going to do about this pregnancy, will depend on whether or not each boy has to know. If you decide to have this baby that both boys will be required to have tests to see who the father is, because if you keep the baby, they will be required to help support it, even if they don't want to see it. Unless your parents become the guardians and raise it themselves, but then you and the boy will have to sign over parental rights. If you are going to have an abortion, then if you have the money, or your parents pay, then you don't have to involve the boys, but it you want them to help, then you have to determine who is the father.
If it turns you that you are not pregnant, then consider yourself lucky. You dodged a bullet, and never, never ever have unprotected sex again. And by the way, now you also know why alcohol and sex do not mix.
Michele
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