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ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
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I want people's opinions on this. Do you think people should wait to have sex until their married. Do you think People would regret it? I mean because like youve waited and now your wondering like "what would it feel like with someone else?" On the other hand i hear people having sex when there 14 and having STDS and they probably should've waited. idk

Opinions?

I believe that it really depends on the person, their beliefs, wants, and the couple as a whole....

While i do believe that its ok for people to be sexual before marriage, like with the examples that you used about a 14 year old, there are certain limits to situation.

A 14 year old really shouldn't be having sex at such a young age. He/she may say that its love, blah blah blah... but how tru is it? In a way sex is for a couple that is mature in a way, that are willing and ready for the possibilities that sex may bring.

That why I say that its ok to have marriage before sex, because if you feel that you are with the "right" person, know them for sure, and is the one that specially may believe to be the one with whom they'll spend the rest of their lifes with, why not? If there is that bond, that trust, and that reliability upon the other person to be with you no matter what, and for both to take responsibility is maybe even a pregnancy was to happen, that they're ready for it...

But for that, i believe there should be some maturity in both parties like I mentioned before. And of course be responsible and safe. Its not necessary to marry someone, or have to wait till marriage to have to unfold that part of you and share with the other person...

Although at the same time we have to respect those that chose to do that. Specially in our society today its hard to find individuals who are willing to wait till marriage, but more power to those that do! ...I for sure wouldn't be able to wait that long! haha! then again, I am planning no getting married in maybe five to ten years! haha! ;-)

Hope this helped! =)

VB

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