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ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

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15-f: well ive been dating a guy for 4 months and my parents are divorced...My mom says that i cannot hangout with him outside of school unless he comes over and "has dinner with us" an she meets his parents as well. My dad told me that unless he's "putting a ring on my finger" then he doesnt have to meet him like the way my mom wants to. soo thats the only way i see him is on my dad's day's..and im not with him that much. I guess my question here is should u continue seeing him at my dads, or should he finally meet my mom...[ps]my mom and i dont get along at all.

Hey! =)
This is a bit of a rough situation, and i feel for you =/
But I personally believe that you probably should try to let your mom meet your boyfriend, no matter the relationship that you two have. It may be that you two don't get along smoetimes at all, but she is still your mom, and believe it or not, she's just trying to look out for you. She wants to be able to see the boy with whom her daughter is =) She probably is telling you that you can't see him unless.. ... ... (etc) because she doesn't want you off with someone that she doesn't know. you know? its just a way to look out for you and whatnot....
I can understand also for example what Grayson (Jordan) is saying... your mom is being a little more strict about it than your dad... but when it comes to the kids, specially girls and bfs, one always tends to be much more than the other. Plus, (i know you're going to hate this) but you are still only 15... and unfortunatelly bc of that, specially viewed through a mothers eyes, a 15yr old is still a baby, and just wants to protect her... just let her meet your bf =) what do you have to lose? if anything maybe your mom will finally be at ease and let you see him more freely =)
and back to Jordans case, well, he is at college, and is about 21 like he said.... and his gf is yet to meet his parents.. BUT what he failed to mention is that his gf's mother was a little troubled about him... and wanted to get to meet him and know him so that she'd let the two have a free open relationship and see each other whenever.... trust me, i know haha! cause i'm his gf... haha! and my mom first thing she wanted to do is meet this guy! and not until she did, did she get off our backs!
so just give it a try with her =)
otherwise, i guess do as you're doing and see him on your fathers days =) and if the relation continues, you're going to get older and then be able to do pretty much what you want =) k?

best of luck! =)

VB

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(Rating: 5) thank you soo much for your comment...and i do agree in the comment about 15 is still a baby, my mom really doesnt want to let me go and a little over protective of me, but i do relize shes trying to help and keep me safe. =] thanks once agian!
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