I'm Em.
I'm a 20 year old English/History student living in Sydney.
I dig art, music and books.
I'll take questions on relationships, friendships, high school, uni, or whatever else.
I try to give the best advice I can, usually drawing on my own personal experience. But I'm not perfect, and sometimes when I look back on some of my advice it's far from it (especially when I was 15 and writing LiKe THiS). It's just advice, though. It's not an answer or a solution, it's simply a potentially helpful perspective. And that's all I can offer you.
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It goes like this.
This friend of mine has a five and a half long distance relatioship with some guy.
He came back 2 weeks ago. She found out he was exchanging emails (be carefull when you call me LOVE...cause you know...her!!!).
Well she decided to forgive him just cause she loves him REALLY BAD. Even though he presented a couple of lame excuses.
Unfortunatelly... his mother Hates her. She is like.."I give you 5000euros if you dump that bitch" and I am not Joking. She really said that thing.
Also...HIS friends hate her. You know how it goes...they hate seeing him NOT fucking other girls etc...so they told him that SHE has been cheating on him for 2 years.
The guy knows that a lie but chooses to believe it and starts hating her and ignoring her cause hey...its summer time..and everyone wants to be free on summer time right? Cause its mating season...
On the mean time...the girl has been crying non stop, she is not sleeping at all. She called him and he was like "Dont call me all in tears and screw up my Night Out" and hang up on her (What A Dick!!!).
So, his friends eventually OPENLY told him that they lied to him and for some reason* he decided to stay mad at her and asked her not to call him for a while.
*and by some reason, I mean that she has been running after him, crying, apologising (even though she made nothing wrong) and giving excuses (even though HE should be the one giving the excuses), and probably that makes him feel like a REAL man...like he is Wanted...he is flattered by that, you know what I mean?
What I want from you is.
This day one of them not talking.
Will he call her if she doesn t? Answer just YES or NO. Dont explain why you believe weather he calls or not.
Will he eventually realise what a dick he s been? I believe that YES he will. And that probably in the future SHE will be the one NOT wanting him back cause he proved how rotten he can be. She just cant see it now cause she is hurt and loves him.
Any advice I could give to the girl? She wont go out with her friends...she does not want to eat 5 kilos of ice cream...she does not want a girls night out...she does not want to get drunk...she just cries. She does not eat or sleep...just cry non stop. Waiting for her cellphone to ring.
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Obviously your pissed about this and i would be to. No, he wont call her. If he does it will be to tell her off and say "why havent u been calling me?". No, he wont realise what a dick hes been, he will just move on to another girl because hes a selfish jerk.
This girl is sad because the guy she has been inlove with for so long treats her like shes nothing.
What you need to do is be a good friend and tell her exactly how it is. DONT call this guy, forget about him. Make her see what hes doing to her and that if it was YOU in HER situation, she would want you to do the same thing. She deserves a hell of alot better than him and she needs someone to tell her straight. She might get mad at you or upset but in the end she will be glad you opened her eyes. It will take time for her to get over it as it was a very long relationship but its better trying now that a year later when shes having no contact with him and still expecting him to call. She is wasting her life on a loser and should have someone who is worth it. You need to be the dominant friend right now and be honest. Go over her house and don't leave until she lets out all her emotions (make it a sleepover that wasnt exactly planned). It's going to take her a long time to get over him but she needs to start NOW! You take her phone and turn it off, don't let her have it all night. Hug her and tell her what a great person she is and deserves better.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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Thank you so much for youw wonderfull advice.
"if it was YOU in HER situation, she would want you to do the same thing","take her phone and turn it off".Really, thank you so much.
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