My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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okay so i don't know what to do. i've been going out with this girl for over a year now and i'm starting to get board. we have sex, that's great, but i'm not used to being with people, i can't break up with her, she'd be devstated. i don't know how to tell her that i'm just so board, but i don't know how to make things interesting again... can anyone help? please! (link)
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Well the first thing you have to decide is if you still want to be with her or not. If you no longer are in love with her and would rather be alone, yes she'll be hurt, but staying with her wouldn't be fair to her either.
In a relationship that's been going on as long as yours has, things are bound to get a little boring because it's the same person that you're around all the time. Things don't stay new and exciting for very long. That's why long-term relationships take time and effort. You can't leave at the first sign of trouble.
I understand that you're not used to being with someone like that, especially for so long, but if you're still in love with her, you should work on it. Talk to her about it and be honest with her, because she deserves your honesty. You should never hide what you're feeling from the person you're with. It's not fair to you OR them.
Maybe you can think of some ways that you can un-bore the relationship and talk to her about "spicing things up". Sometimes all you need is a couple new ingredients to spice up an old, familiar dish. Ya know?
Communication is key. Maybe you'll start talking to her about it and she'll feel the same way. Another thing to remember is that some relationships aren't meant to work out. If you don't want to be with her anymore, don't stay with her out of pity. Because then you'll end up getting so bored and aggravated that you could find your fun with other women, and that is NOT cool.
So, basically, my advice is to ask yourself if you still want to be with her. If you do, talk to her about how you feel and try to fix it. If you don't, you have to break it off with her in the best way you can so you both can move on quicker. Either way, don't be mean about it and don't make her feel like any of this is HER fault. Don't let her think that the whole relationship was just a waste of both of your time. Let her know that you do still care about her and love her, but you just think it would be best if you saw other people, took a break, and see how you both do on your own. Who knows? Maybe one day you'll find your way back to each other. If it's meant the be, it'll happen.
Good luck!
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