I'm a 21 year-old graduate student. I've been in several serious relationships and consider myself to be fairly knowledgeable on the subject. I've also had a difficult family situation and can sympathize with relative induced drama/trauma. I really enjoy people and like to problem-solve. If I weren't in my chosen field (politics/law), I would have probably pursued psychology.
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Age: 21
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i have a bit of a problem
i can't talk to girls to save my life
i try, and i fail...miserably
like...i'll post on her wall or something, then she'll say something back and i have no idea what to say next so i just post something like "yea..." or "uh huh..." and i know i sound like i'm completely uninterested in the conversation but i actually want to try and talk to girls i'm just really, really bad at it...i cant keep a conversation going! it happened all the time at events like football games throughout the school year- i'd meet someone i liked, but i wouldn't be able to hold a conversation to save my life! so can anyone give me some tips or something to help me out? i just need some help...there's this girl i really like and wanna ask her out eventually but if i can't hardly talk to her then that will be impossible!
thank you so much in advance! (link)
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I'm going to assume that you have no problem talking to other guys (or people in general). Talking to girls in the early stages is not much different than talking to guys. Imagine you were talking to a close friend. What would you say? For the sake of your confidence, I'd advise you to pretend that she already likes you. Now that not too far of a stretch, you're a nice guy who's interested in her, so why shouldn't she like you? The best way to have a conversation with someone you don't know well is to get them to talk about themselves that way it takes the pressure of you and you get to know them.
Here's a sample getting to know you type consversation:
You: "Hey Kylie what'd you think of that math test?"
Her: It was alright not the worst.
You: I didn't understand the way Mrs. Blank explains how to find the slope. Do you understand the stuff she writes on the board?"
There you have it: a conversation! And if you're really lucky one of these consversation could lead to an opportunity to hang out. Let's say Kylie gets the way Mrs. Blank outlines her lectures. Then you could ask her if she wants to get a pizza and go over the notes before your next math test. Getting to know a girl is nothing complicated. Making girl friends (or girlfriends) is a lot like making guy friends. You just have to take it one "hi" at a time. -Dani (f/20)
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