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As John Lennon once said, "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans." So true.



Giving advice is sort of second nature to me. I use to have a column on here but ended up deleting it. Now once again I have decided to give advice again. I value people and their problems and try to help them the best I can.



No question is a silly question. Every question has importance. I sometimes feel like some of my questions I want to ask are viewed as pointless but have comed to realize that this isn't entirely true.



My biggest pet peeves are bad spelling, grammar and punctuation. It's silly, but I mean it's not that difficult to tell the difference between you're and your. Or even their, they're and there. No offense if you do any of this, but we learned all of these when we were younger in 5th grade (give or take).



Personally one of my favorite quote is by Eleanor Roosevelt. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
If only people would truly realize this, the world would be so much happier.

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i hate my stepmom. i kno hate is a strong word and well, my feelings are strong. she is sooo mean to me!! she doesnt like abuse me but the things she says really hurt. she always calls me fat (im 14 5'2 and 97 lbs.) and maybe thats fat but i dont think she needs to remind me of it every single day. i cant have friends over because she is sooo rude to everyone. i cant talk to my dad about it because he doesnt want to deal with it and i cant talk to her because she doesnt care. how can i ignore it? and pleaseeee dont say to talk to my dad. i really dont know what to do anymore.

thanks

First off, I totally know how it feels. I had that at one point in my life. And I know it's extremely tough on you. For me the situation got resolved because my dad divored her, so that's a possibility at one point down the road.

For now though ignore her. She's trying to break you down by mentally abusing you not physically, which is just as bad. Try ignoring her comments, she'll probably pry a response out of you but stay strong. At one point, hopefully, she'll realize how petty she's being and might come around and stop.

If your dad doesn't want to deal with it than it seems like there might be trouble in paradise, or he's just going to brush it off, but at one point later one try speaking to him about your feelings and how you're trying to cope with what she's saying to you, so he'll understand your position. But I mean talk to him down the road.


For now rely on friends and talk to them about your situation if you can, and if you can't which I understand write down your feelings in a journal or book. It'll be a lifesaver since you won't store up all your hurt in you and you'll be able to express how you feel.

Stay strong, you'll be able to, and don't listen to what she says. Good luck too.

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(Rating: 5) thank you soo much!
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