At age 15, I was raped by my boyfriend. So I guess my story's a little different than everyone else's.

I mean, of course I regret it. But at the same time, it's taught me a lot -- for instance, now I am a lot less trusting when it comes to guys. That doesn't mean I don't trust them at all, just that I am more wary of what people are capable of. I've taken self defense classes and I know that if something like this happens again, I'll know how to protect myself.

Still, I don't consider the rape losing my virginity, because I believe your "virginity" is something that you share with someone you care about, and it can't be stolen from you unwillingly.

As far as "giving away" my virginity... that wasn't until I was 18. Not because I was a prude, I just hadn't had a lot of luck with guys after my rape and failed relationship. I don't regret losing my virginity to him -- partially because we're still together a year and a half later. Even if we weren't though, I wouldn't regret it because I love him, and I loved him when I chose to have sex with him. Plus, I've always learned to never regret something that once made you smile. =]

thanks for replying :]

Hey there. I'm Holly, and I'm 19. I've been through a lot in my life -- literally, if you can name it, I've probably dealt with it or know someone who has. Unfortunately, it sucks, but fortunately, it puts me in a great position to help people that need advice. Feel free to ask me anything about anything. =]

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