My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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I've liked this guy for a long time (I'll call him John) and my best guy friend I will call Bob. Bob and I used to be really close, we would tell each other everything. He liked me for a long time, a few years, and then told everyone he got over me. I never had feelings for him.
I told Bob that I really liked John. John and Bob were good friends. But Bob claimed that John was just a "funny guy" so he doesnt really like him, he just liked to laugh at him.
Anyway recently John asked me out =] and I said yes, I've been so happy I can't contain it. And a week or so ago Bob said he was done being friends with our group of friends. He ignored all of us but now he's only ignoring me. I'm not really making an attempt to talk to him because he was getting on my nerves a lot before.
Now if he hangs out with us he always gets drunk first then just sits off to the side listening to his ipod.
My good girl friend Liz talked to him and told me that the reason he has been drinking is because he hates seeing John and I together.
I think it's totally selfish and over dramatic. If he was such a good friend why cant he at least try to be happy for me? I've never been this happy before. Why is it all about Bob being so upset? It's not like if I wasnt with John I would be with Bob. I doubt I will ever like Bob.
John is absolutely worth it. Bob said he was done being friends with all of us a week or so before John asked me out. Since when he said that I have been mad at Bob. I really think John did nothing wrong. Bob said he was over me but then he gets all upset that I'm with John. It's not fair that I should have to feel guilty for something I'm really happy about.
What am I supposed to do? I feel bad but at the same time I don't mind not having Bob around and I'm really enjoying being with John. I don't think Bob is being fair. What do I do?? (link)
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You're right, Bob is being unfair, selfish, and immature. If he was over you, he wouldn't be ignoring you. I understand that maybe he still likes you and is jealous out of his mind, but if he really cared for you, he wouldn't ignore you. That's just ridiculous.
If you don't mind not having Bob around, then don't worry about it. Have fun with John and your friends and just let Bob decide what he wants to do. It's up to him if he wants your friendship.
If you'd like to continue your friendship with Bob, you're going to have to talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him ignoring you and ask him what the deal is. If he tells you, you can go from there. If he doesn't tell you and continues to not be your friend, then he's not worth it.
Bob just doesn't seem like a very loyal friend. If John is worth it, then just feast your attention on him. :)
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Thanks, I was thinking mostly the same thing, so hearing that I'm not a total jerk for wanting to not even bother with Bob is great. Thanks again!
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