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me and my boo, weve been talking for a long time like 6 months, and i think its time i ask him out since hes so shy. I seriously think hes never been in a relationship before and im surprised he grabs my hand wen we walk or puts his arms around me alot. I want to ask me out but dont know how. Hes really shy with that, and how can i ask him to be my boyfriend without flipping out, like getting a heart attack because he gets nervous?????I really want to be his girl, i need advice. How can i ask him to be my boyfriend???

Well, i think if you guys are really good friends i think you should go about things very upfront.. usually, not always but it is the guy which asks the girl out, some guys may take it the wrong way if you ask them out.. One thing i suggest is not to asm him out, but instead tell him you hav really really strong feelings for him, and let him say something.. He can either reply with i feel the same way or i think we should be friends.. From what ive read sounds to me like there is definatly a connection between the both of you. I think the best thing to do is to go somewhere where it is just you and him, and tell him when you feel right.. You will naturally be nervous but think of it this way, those few minutes of you being nervous could lead to you having years of hapiness. So take the risk!

Once you tell him that you have feelings for him, the ball is in his court, it then kind of forces him to tell you how he really feels. If he says he has feelings for you, the relationship becomes more of a mutual thing and will just happen.

Just make sure you consider every situation that could happn. For example if you told him, and he didnt give you a reply, dont think he doesnt feel the same way, maybe he just needs time to think things through..

About the kissing situation, i think that if once you have told him how you feel and he says he feels the same way, then go in for a kiss - a long passionate kiss. This is a good point to do it as it will kind of break the silence and not make the situation akward as you wont be left with "he said he likes me, what do i do now"..

I wish you luck, let me know what you decide to do and how it all goes..

Hope ive helped..

Sanj

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